Why Life Coaching Works for Both
Moms & Their Teen Daughters
Life coaching works to help many moms and their daughters create happy and healthy changes in their relationship. Moms are often the “preferred” liaison to their children; yet, they’re on the hotseat to manage their kids’ social life, school, extracurricular activities, health concerns etc., etc! The media continues to report that the world is becoming more complex every minute. Additionally, with so many advancements in learning and technology, the bar has been set higher than ever before.
Manage the Stress
The stress and pressure to perform affects both moms and their daughters. Because rules of engagement and effective communication are not established, verbal ERUPTIONS often occur. Consequently, the lines are drawn and the silent treatment and/or dreaded punishment begins. Most moms are unconsciously parenting from an outdated model that doesn’t work with today’s lifestyle and challenges.
Teen Girls and The Triple Bind
Teen girls struggle with what Dr. Stephen Hinshaw, a leader in the field of developmental psychopathology for children and adolescents, calls the “triple bind.” This relates to the unrealistic expectation to be perfect in so many roles. First, the girl role:pretty, sweet, put others before self, socially savvy, boyfriend etc. Second, the boy role: strong, competitive, athletic and successful. Lastly, the super hero role – sound familiar? You can see with these issues swirling, they never take time to find themselves or make any mistakes ever! These conflicting and “unspoken” rules are some of the primary reasons for the increase in anxiety, depression, eating disorders and self-mutilation among today’s teen girls.
Coaching is Not Therapy
A life coach is not designed to work with mental health concerns or disorders of any kind. A trained therapist would handle any issue pertaining to mental health. However, many breakdowns in the home are not always caused by mental health issues. In fact, working with a life coach has been a positive way to resolve a myriad of common underlying concerns. Unstated expectations such as lack of vision or clarity of purpose, poor life-balance and self-care, as well as, communication barriers which impede good listening and negotiating skills can be culprits. We can’t forget one of the biggest missing pieces in a mother/daughter relationship: a regular established time to talk and listen to each other openly and freely.
How Will It Change?
Ultimately, ask yourself what’s truly going on right now in your life? Do you “run on empty” for weeks or months? Furthermore, are you keeping these essential needs unknown without a plan to resolve them? You may be unknowingly, sabotaging the very thing you’re enduring the pain for – the success of your family. First, a life coach provides tools to increase self-awareness, self-care, communication and essential coping skills to defuse stress and prevent the onset of more serious consequences. More importantly, you and your daughter will learn early on to love, accept and believe in the possibilities again. Finally, you’ll get to practice valuable teamwork and life skills, while expressing your unique voices to set boundaries and confidently make choices that support your vision and goals.
Take a look at reasons why mom’s sabotage themselves. After you’ve done all your research, because you’re that kind of mom :), Moms & Girls Who Matter Life Coaching will be here to help you both on your amazing journey!